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a lesbian that uses he/him pronouns

cis person: he's a hesbian? doesn't that just make him a straight guy? 😡😡
person with at least 10 oz of brain: uhh, last time i checked, pronouns don't always equal gender? that's not a man? how did you get into my house?

a label used by lesbians who use he/him pronouns. hesbians can use other pronouns alongside he/him such as they/them, she/her or even neopronouns if they wish. some hesbians consider themselves non-binary, whereas others are comfortable being cis- and some hesbians even being trans women/transfem.

being a lesbian and also using he/him can be used to alleviate a disconnect from womanhood, used for gender non conforming/drag, just for the fun of it and more. there is no “right” way to be a hesbian.

hesbian is a beautiful term and all those who identify as one are valid and deserve love. go hug a local hesbian today!

person a: wait... if you use he/him and are masc presenting, are u a trans guy?
person b: nope, im a hesbian! i can understand the confusion though.
person a: oh okay, thank you for telling me!

lesbian with he/him pronouns

hesbians ARE valid

a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns

often invalidated by gatekeeping bigots who think pronouns = gender and unable to let others be happy

hesbian: hey i'm a wlw but i use he/him i hope that's alright
she/her lesbian: that's fine with me, your identity, your choice :)

non binary lesbians that use he/him pronouns. he/him lesbians are NOT male but non binary. pronouns do not always equate to gender.

skyler came out as a hesbian last week, I’m so proud of him!

short for he/him lesbian. aka a "lesbian" who uses he/him despite that set of pronouns being strictly gendered to men.

normal lesbians: can the hesbians please stop invading our spaces we just want to be left alone

hesbians: GRR BARK WOOF AWOOO BARK BARK WOOF GRRRR

A woman who is behaviorally lesbian in every way except that she sleeps heterosexually, e.g. with males. Very widespread now among women ages 32-45.

"Men are always accusing me of being lesbian because I won't date them and discard them after sex. Is it my fault I'm a hesbian?"

1. Preferring short hair over long
2. Refusing to wear girlish attire like high heels
3. Refusal to go along with heterosexual courtship behavior, e.g. calling the man first, showing independence and intelligence, refusing to conceal one's talents or intelligence to make men feel better
4. Disinclination to date
5. Disinterest in men for anything except intercourse
6. Disinterest in becoming pregnant by intercourse
7. Strong liking for gay male porn and masturbation fantasy over heterosexual porn or fantasy